During a typical year, children get two weeks off school during Christmas break, often a week or so before Christmas and a week after.  However, this year, Christmas falls on a weekend, and if your school scheduled vacation as my son’s did, you will see kids who don’t get out of school for Christmas vacation until December 23^rd.  That leaves them with almost two weeks of vacation AFTER Christmas itself, a time that is pretty low on excitement.  (It is so much easier to have a week off before the holiday because there are so many activities for the kids to enjoy.)  You could very likely end up with bored children, especially because all of the activities of Christmas are over just two days into vacation.

However, there are plenty of frugal ways to keep the kids, especially your preschool and elementary school kids, entertained during the Christmas vacation.  Consider the following activities:

1.  Have a family play.  Take out the dress up box and let the kids come up with a play to perform for the family.  If your children are old enough, you can largely stay out of the picture and let them decide on a story, props, stage directions (even if the stage is just your living room).  Smaller children may need a bit more direction and assistance from parents.  If the kids are stuck for story ideas, they may want to act out what happens in one of their favorite stories.
2. Check out your local library.  Our local library has plenty of activities for kids during the holiday including a movie viewing night, family story hour, and a Lego building activity.  In addition to activities, most kids will enjoy spending an hour or two at the library reading books and choosing books to check out to read at home.
3. Visit a public museum.  Many museums put up special holiday displays such as holidays around the world and Christmas decorations throughout the years.  Most kids love all of the lights and decorations that go with the holiday, so take the time to visit your local museum and enjoy the display.  Afterwards, at night, take the time to drive around and view all of the colorful holiday lights and decorations on neighborhood houses.  If you have a house in your area that goes all out with the decorations, make sure to visit that one.
4. Let kids stay up late.  My kids need their sleep and have an early bed time.  However, during the holidays, we relax the rules a bit and let them stay up later one or two nights a week.  Perhaps they can stay up to watch a favorite show that they normally can’t view because it is past their bedtime or you could play games with them.  Either way, they will be delighted to stay up later than they are usually allowed to.

There are simple things you can do to entertain your young children without spending a lot of money.  Employ some of these tactics, and you will hopefully avoid the common vacation chant, “Mom, I am bored!”

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My husband and I recently added up our student loan and credit card debt, and we were shocked at the figure–$58,000!  What was this debt comprised of?  It is made up of nearly $38,000 in student loans, $6,500 on a business credit card for a business that failed and $13,500 of personal credit card debt spread over two cards (the smallest balance at $1,000), largely due to our current low income and some not so wise purchases.

What Gazelle Intense Looks Like for Us

At the urging of everyone around us, we began to follow Dave Ramsey.  Because we do not yet own a house but would like to in the next 3 to 5 years, we decided to become Gazelle Intense, as Dave Ramsey says.  What does gazelle intense look like for us?  My husband is gone to work and away from the house for 10 hours a day.  After spending an hour with the kids when he comes home, he works on his dissertation and articles for publication for a few hours a night.  I stay home with the kids all day and blog, do virtual assistant work and freelance writing when the kids are napping and after they go to bed.  On the weekend, I typically leave the house for about 4 hours on both Saturday and Sunday to get more freelance work done.  I estimate that I am working 25 hours a week from home, and my husband is putting in another 20 hours a week at home doing work that will further his career and hopefully lead to a high paying, tenure track job in a few years.

Gazelle Intensity Works!

Our hard work is paying off.  In just two weeks, we “found” an additional $701 to apply to our debt beyond our regular debt repayment schedule, and we just paid off our first credit card with the lowest balance.  We plan to pay off the credit card with $6,500 within the next 4 weeks.

As anyone who has become Gazelle Intense knows, there is a period of adjustment when getting used to the austere lifestyle that is required.  Let’s be honest—most people who have credit card debt have at least some of it because of a lack of impulse control and planning.  Was all of our credit card debt due to that?  No, we had a very low income for awhile, and we relied on credit to make ends meet.  However, we also ate out more than we needed to.  (Do you ever need to eat out?)  Our debt now is higher than it might have been had we been more stringent with ourselves and our finances.

How to Maintain Gazelle Intensity for Months (and Years)

Because there is such an adjustment, to maintain your gazelle intensity and avoid frugal fatigue, consider rewarding yourself for each debt that you pay off or at a milestone you set.  If you have one large debt to pay off, maybe you will reward yourself for every $5,000 you pay off.  For us, since we love to eat out and now no longer eat out at all, we have decided that we will have one meal out every time we pay off a debt.  To maintain your drive, pick one thing you used to enjoy spending money on in your old, less frugal lifestyle, and commit to enjoying that activity once when you achieve your assigned goal in your debt snowball.  Keep it reasonable, less than $50, so you don’t derail your snowball, but give yourself that leeway to maintain your intensity.

Being gazelle intense definitely has rewards—put yourself in a painful place for an intense while until the debt is paid off, then, begin to reap the rewards of all your hard work by living like no one else, as Dave Ramsey says.  Yet, be careful not to become so strict with yourself that you give in to frugal fatigue and derail your debt snowball.  A small, planned out treat is often all it takes to keep you motivated and ultimately debt free.

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When we decided that it was time for a new house, (read this post for the reasoning) we knew that we had to be smarter about it than we had been when we bought our first house.  We weren’t going to just jump into it and make a rash decision that might cost us down the road.  What we discovered when we started really talking about it was that we had a slightly different idea of what we wanted in a new house.

One of the biggest reasons that my wife wants a new house was because she feels (rightly) that our current house is too small for our growing family.  Between the two kids and the big dog, we just don’t have room for all the stuff.  Yes, stuff is just that.  Stuff.  It can be gotten rid of, but it seems to just re-accumulate.  There are certain luxuries that we allow ourselves, that some people would just call stuff.  Will it cost us money to keep those luxuries?  You bet.  Are we willing to pay that price?  You bet.  While I’m sure there are some who can live on $7,000 a year, and do so enjoyably, I’ve come to the conclusion that I’m not one of them.  Call it what you will, but I like my stuff.

But, I also like my space.  So, for me, one of the biggest things I want in a new house is a sizable yard.  It doesn’t have to be huge, but a small postage stamp yard isn’t going to cut it.  We’ve got a dog, and he needs room to run, too!  Yes, there are parks in town.  Yes, we could go to them and run and play there.  But, it’s easier to just do that in my own back yard.  I imagine that part of that is from my experiences growing up where we always had some land to play on.

We’ve got other requirements, as well.  The kitchen has to be comfortably large.  It doesn’t need to be one of those huge kitchens you see on the home remodeling shows, but it needs to be large enough that two people can pass each other without one of them having to practically stand on the stove to do so.  It was a mistake we made in buying the house we have now that the kitchen was just too small and makes any combined activities pretty much a n0-go.   Also, as our family grows, we’d like to have more than one bathroom.  It wasn’t so bad when both kids were in diapers and could go wherever they were, but now that they’re both out of diapers, it makes it very difficult to get everybody ready and out the door in the mornings.  Impossible?  No.  But damned difficult.

So, with a few requirements in mind, we set about shopping for a new house.  Luckily, most of the realtors in the area are pretty good about taking enough pictures to really help you get a good idea of what the house looks like before you go and see it, and we’ve been able to weed some of the less than desirable ones out before we wasted our time to see them.

We quickly weeded through the available houses, and came up with only two that were even close.  The one was a bit older house, but had the land.  It’s failing was that, despite being bigger than the house we are in, it was configured all strangely, and all the extra room was in all the wrong places.  The second house is on the edge of town.  This was a bit worrisome to my wife because the town isn’t known for it’s excellence in snow removal, and there’s a chance that, being on the edge of town, it might get even less attention than the rest of town gets.  It does have a large yard (2+ acres), and has plenty of room inside.  We found ourselves slightly excited by our first visit.  Enough so, that we went for a second visit.  And then made an offer.

The owners countered our offer, and we took their counter, so now, we’re in the process of getting all the ducks in a row and buying a house.  We will need to sell the house we are currently in, to use the funds from the sale for a larger down payment.  God willing, we might be able to close on the house and be moved in before Christmas.

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This is not representative of the house we are buying or selling. Wouldn't that be nice though?

Way back when, before we were even married, we decided that we wanted to buy a house.  The idea, at the time was that it was terribly difficult to find a house/apartment to rent that would take a dog and that was affordable.  We’d been looking, but everything we had found was $600 or more a month.  To me, it seemed smarter to buy a house where the mortgage would be $400 or so, and build some equity, at least.  I was partially right, I suppose.  Where I had gotten it wrong was in the fact that we weren’t really ready, financially, to buy a house. We had no savings for a down payment, no idea of the costs involved in buying a home, nor any idea of the process itself.  We were young, in love, and ready to get on with our lives together.

At first, my then girlfriend (now wife), wasn’t on board.  She thought, rightly, that it was a big step and, not as rightly, that it was not a good idea for us to buy a house before we were even married.  I tried and tried to convince her that it was indeed a good idea, and that we needed to do it.  One day, while we were driving around town, looking at rentals, she happened to be talking to her mother on the phone and mentioned the idea of us buying a house.  While I couldn’t hear my future mother-in-law on the other end, I’m told she said something along the lines of “Why not?”.  Turns out, she thought it was a splendid idea.  (I should pause here to mention that it’s not the last time me and my mother-in-law have agreed on something where my wife disagreed with us.  It annoys my wife to no end.)

So, we left the rental we had been looking at with a copy of all the current listings in our area, and went home to peruse.  Over the next few days, our youth and inexperience showed through with what, in hindsight, is an extreme brightness.  We drove by 4 of the listings that I remember.  Of the 4, we looked at 2.  Only 1 of them had a yard that was large enough for the dog, and we bought it.  I can’t really say it was a mistake, but it wasn’t our smartest moment either.  Turns out the kitchen was small.  So was the bathroom.  The number of outlets in the entire house can very nearly be counted on one set of hands.  But, we bought it anyways.

We still had a full month of time at the apartment that we were then living in, so we took the time to paint every room in the house before moving in.  We replaced a bunch of the old, yellowed outlets for fresh white ones.  We replaced all but three of the light fixtures.  And we removed what felt like a ton of wallpaper.  And, we made it our own.  We’ve since lost the dog we had, and one more.  We’ve got a puppy three or so years ago, and he likes the back yard enough for both of them.  We’ve managed to squeeze two kids and all of the stuff that comes with them into the house.  But, we began to realize that our time here was limited.  It was time to move.

I’ll write more about the process of finding a house, putting an offer in, and then preparing our current house to sell a bit later.  Hopefully, I’ll have a nice post about the process of actually selling a house too, but we’ve still got that hurdle to jump.  But, the short of it is that we’re moving.  We found a nice house with a small patch of land that should fit us just fine for a nice long time.  We’ve put in a great deal of work to get our house ready for the next owners and listed it on the market, and we’re ready to go. And, as long as we can sell our house, we can buy the other house.  It’s an interesting balancing act that I’ll write more about later too.

The only thing left now is to show the house and sell it.  Which, considering all the effort we’ve put into it to get it ready, I hope is a quick and easy process.

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Having kids is not cheap.  There are many expenses that are associated with small children that are hard to get around no matter how frugal you are.  For instance, if you are a dual income family, you must pay for daycare and disposable diapers as most daycare centers will not accept cloth diapers.  In our area, daycare for an infant can run a family $1000 a month.  You may rejoice when your child enters preschool because you will find an extra $1000 a month in your pocket.  Instead of just absorbing that money back into your budget, why not earmark it for something else?

Imagine if you took that $1000 a month and invested it?  That is $12,000 a year!  You could continue to pay it to yourself, perhaps setting up a college fund for your child with the money you used to pay in daycare.  In five years, you would have $60,000.  After that, just let it sit and earn interest for the next eight years, and your child’s college education would be largely paid for.

What if one of the parents decides to stay home to care for the children, in part to avoid expensive daycare?  They may not have the $1000 a month to put away.  While this is true, there are still plenty of other expenses associated with young children that you eventually won’t have to pay.  For instance, we are paying roughly $75 a month to diaper our two girls, and I anticipate within the next 6 to 8 months, both girls will be out of diapers.  It would be very easy to just absorb that $75 back into the budget, but that isn’t what I plan to do.  Instead, I plan to set up a college education fund for my kids and invest that $75 a month.  Yes, $75 a month will not add up very quickly, and it certainly won’t put even one of my children through college.  But it is a start, and it is more than we are putting away right now.

Likewise, if you have a monthly car payment, when the car is paid off, use that money to pay yourself a car payment so you can pay for your next car in cash.  If you bought a car 7 years ago, and had a monthly payment of $475, and you paid off the loan in four years and continued to make that monthly payment, you would now have $17,100 set aside for a new car, which would be enough to buy a nice, one to two year old car for cash.

You may argue that the car payment or the daycare payment was a hardship and that now that you no longer need to pay those payments, you need the money to pay for other things.  This might be true, but if your child was still younger than preschool age, you would find a way to make the payments because you would have to.  Or, if you now have other expenses for your child such as after school care for $300 a month, deduct that from the $1000 you used to pay for daycare and save the remainder.  If you can maintain that mindset, you will find yourself reaching your financial goals quicker than you imagined, simply by not seeing that money as “free money” to now spend as you will but rather as money to continue to invest in your and your child’s future.

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After the long days of summer, many parents look forward to their children’s return to school.  Unfortunately, preparing for the return to school often includes a large financial outlay for back to school supplies and clothes.  However, there are several strategies you can employ to limit how much you have to spend.

Back to School Supplies

-In late July, try to obtain your child’s back to school supply list from the school.  Scour the ads for great deals and look at sites like A Full Cup to learn which items you can get for free.  It may take several weeks for all of the items on your child’s list to go on sale, which is why you want to start shopping in late July.  I employed this strategy last year and got all of my son’s school supplies for $12, and I bought extra to give at Christmas too.

-Keep in mind that stores such as Staples, Office Depot and Office Max have a price matching policy.   If you find a lower price at a competitor’s store, bring in the ad, and the store you are shopping at will match the price.  You can save gas by taking advantage of this policy, but beware that most have a 7 to 14 day window for the competitor’s price, and a few stores exclude prices advertised on websites.

-When you can obtain items for free, try to buy more than you need.  Then, if your child runs out of some of the supplies mid-school year, you won’t have to pay full price to buy more.  You can just shop in your supply you got for free.

Back to School Clothing

-Before going out to shop for clothes, first go through your child’s closet to see what clothing they already have that still fits and is in good condition.  Make a list of items and colors so you can look for matching pieces when shopping.

-Check out stores like Once Upon a Child.  They often have new designer clothes for 1/3 to ½ the retail cost.

-Buy on eBay.  Many people list their children’s gently worn clothes on eBay, and you can find many auctions in late July and August.  To make sure you get a good deal, read the description thoroughly.  A good seller should specify how worn the clothes are and any flaws in the clothing.  To make sure you are dealing with a good seller, check their feedback.  It should be 100% positive.  I never buy from a seller with lower than 98% positive feedback.  Also, the more feedback a seller has, the more experienced they are.  Finally, feel free to ask questions about the clothing before you bid on it.  Consider buying several auctions from one seller who combines shipping to save on shipping costs.

-Check out Craigslist.  People often list their children’s clothes for sale and when they are having garage sales.  You probably don’t want to buy all of your children’s clothes used, but you can find some high quality clothing at a fraction of the cost by considering used clothing markets.

-Buy mix and match clothing.  Try to buy 3 to 4 pairs of pants and 5 to 6 shirts that can be interchanged.  This dramatically extends the variety of outfits your child can wear.

-Stagger your buying.  Buy some lightweight fall clothes early in the season, and buy sweaters and warmer clothes later in the fall.  This can help you distribute the money that you spend over a few months.  Wait for seasonal sales such as Columbus Day.  Also, the stores frequently reduce the fall merchandise to make way for the winter items; try to buy more clothes when they are on clearance.

The average American spends $600 on back to school shopping.  You can reduce that amount by half or more by following some of these strategies.  If you take the time to plan ahead and wait for the sales, you can dramatically cut your back-to-school expenses.  Happy frugal shopping!

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According to the USDA’s 2010 report, raising a child born in 2010 to the age of 18 will cost on average $226,920.  This cost is the average cost a middle-class family pays for shelter, food, health care, clothing, transportation, child care, education and other expenses.  They further break down the average cost per child per year as $11,800 to $13,880.  Yikes!  If you are on the fence about having kids, this report will certainly sway you in the direction of remaining childless.

However, as a mom to three kids, I can attest (as many other parents including Beating Broke can), that it doesn’t have to be this way.    My husband and I have three kids, which, according to the report, should run us a minimum of $35,400 a year, not including our other expenses.  My husband is just completing his Ph.D. and starting his career.  While we count on him being able to make a large salary in the future, right now between his job and my part-time work from home, we are making a little less than $40,000.  We are most definitely not spending $35,400 a year on our kids.  Here is how we cut corners:

-Shop for clothes at garage sales.  Babies and little kids don’t really care about their clothes; you can find fashionable, barely worn clothing at garage sales for less than $1 per piece or outfit.  Save money this way.  I know it is tempting to buy those adorable, brand new baby clothes, but babies outgrow outfits in weeks.  Let someone else spend their money buying those clothes so you can snatch them up for pennies at a garage sale.  If you don’t go to garage sales, check out Craigslist or eBay.

-Breastfeed if possible.  Not every woman is able or willing to breastfeed, but if you are, breastfeeding can save nearly $1,000 that would have to be spent on formula for the first year of the child’s life.

-Use cloth diapers.  Cloth diapers do require a large financial investment upfront, but they will last for the two to three years your child is in diapers, and they may even last for use by your next child.  If cloth diapers make you squeamish, make sure to never pay retail for disposable diapers.  By finding deals and using coupons, you should be able to reduce your diaper cost significantly.

-Accept all hand-me-downs.  If you are the lucky recipient of hand-me-downs, please take them.  Honestly, for a newborn, the only thing you need to buy brand new is a crib mattress and a car seat, for safety reasons.  Everything else such as strollers, toys, cribs, clothes, etc. can be given as a hand-me-down or bought second hand.

There are some costs that you can’t save money on such as day care and health care.  In all the other areas, there are ways to cut corners.  Get in the practice of cutting corners when children are small and save the difference.  Forgo the brand new outfits and large ticket items like a crib and instead go secondhand and save the difference.  Bigger expenses loom ahead such as college.  As Beating Broke stated in an earlier post, Stop Adding Up the Cost of Raising Children.  It is possible to raise them for significantly less than the government suggests.

What are your suggestions for saving money when raising children?

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Whether you are dating or married, one of the best ways to maintain closeness in your relationship is to have a date night.  However, with the high cost of entertainment, dating can put a serious kink in your budget, but it does not have to.  Here are some low-cost date suggestions that will kindle your relationship and protect your wallet.

-Cook together.  Dates don’t always have to entail a dinner and a movie.  Consider making a meal together.  My husband and I both love to cook and eat, so during our courtship we frequently cooked together.  We tried new recipes and varied what we prepared.  Sometimes we would make an economical stir-fry, while other times we bought crab legs from the grocery store and treated ourselves.  We bought the crab legs on sale for $9.99; still much cheaper than a night out on the town, and we could talk while we cooked.

-Go to a free concert.  If you live in a metropolitan area or near a college town, there is no shortage of free events.  Take advantage of them and plan your date around the event.  We attend blues festivals and food festivals as well as concerts in the park.  They provide several hours of enjoyable entertainment for free.

-Rent a movie.  Rent a movie or two from Redbox or the local library.  Redbox only charges $1 per movie, and the local library may offer them for free or for a nominal fee for $1 or $2.

-Star gaze together.  If you live in a rural area, take advantage of the darkness and put out a blanket on the ground and gaze at the stars together.  My husband and I bought a constellation map and spent hours trying to identify all of the constellations.  It’s also fun to watch shooting stars.

-Hike together.  If you live somewhere with trails or hiking paths, take a hike together.  It is free, and you can’t compete with the beautiful scenery.

-Have a picnic.  In this modern society where we are trained to go, go, go, it seems simple to pack a meal and have a picnic somewhere, but you will appreciate the time to talk and just focus on one another.  My husband and I frequently went to a local waterfall in the evenings and just talked.  It was so refreshing to hear the water in the background, and the scenery was amazing.

-Grab a bite to eat during happy hour.  Many restaurants offer ½ off appetizers between the hours of 3 and 5 and after 9 p.m.  Plan to dine out during that time and enjoy some half-price appetizers.  (This is fun to do sometimes; I went to grad school with a guy who would only take his dates out for half price appetizers.  I am still amazed that he found girls to go out with him.)

If you go the traditional route of dinner and a movie for a date, you could spend upwards of $50 for two people for just a few hours of entertainment.  Instead, try some of these date suggestions or alternate expensive dates with more frugal dates.  After all, the point of dating is to have fun and enjoy one anothers company, not spend as much money as you can.  Enjoy!

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Every few weeks, you see an article that goes into great detail on the costs of having children.  In these articles, they talk about how much it costs to have a child at the hospital, to buy diapers, formula, clothes, and even talk about future costs like sports, cars, and college.  But, if there’s one thing that being a father has taught me, it’s to stop adding up the cost of children.  Seriously.  Here’s why.

If you are one of those people who truly wants to have children, it won’t matter what they cost.  You’ll want them.  And, you’ll gladly find a way to pay the cost.  Sure, it might be nice to know some rough estimates so that you can prepare a little.  That’s mostly sane.  But, some people are actually using those cost estimates as a justification for not having children.  They go on to claim that it’s just not the responsible thing to do (having children) if you can’t afford them.  But, here’s the thing.  Almost every single one of them can afford children.  It will mean changing their lifestyle, sure, but they will be able to afford a child.  The folks who truly cannot afford children, aren’t off in the corner with calculators, running the numbers.  It won’t ever occur to them that they can’t afford children.  They’ll do just what you should do, if you want children.  Have them.

No doubt, it’s scary.  The numbers run from the low 5 digits to the low 7 digits over a childs lifetime.  And, don’t even begin to total up the added “cost” of the time spent at t-ball games, birthday parties, and other childrens events. (Shhh! Don’t tell anyone, but most of those are really good excuses to have a bit of fun yourself.) And it’s absolute torture to try and figure out and estimate what college will cost in 18 years.  But, that’s the root of my advice to you.  Just don’t.  Don’t add up the costs.  The truth of it is that it just doesn’t matter.

Children are an incredible blessing.  The experience is invaluable and without a price tag.  It’s not for everyone.  But, if you want to have children, just do it.  You’ll be glad you did, regardless of cost.

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Married couples have been doing it for centuries.  Combining their finances is just something they’ve always done.  Call it tradition if you want.  Call it necessity.  Recently, it’s a tradition that has come under fire as being old and outdated.  After all, the reason that the tradition exists is because it was rather usual for the woman in the marriage to stay home and be a homemaker while the husband went off to work and earned the money.  Since the woman wasn’t contributing to the financial inflow, there was no reason for her to have her own account.  What would she put in it?

But, with a new age, comes new standards.  Now, it’s expected that a woman will enter the workforce (or, at least, the contingent workforce).  And she’ll remain there even after marriage.  Not only will she remain in the workforce, but there is a chance that she’ll bring more to the table financially than her husband.  Suddenly, the decision to combine finances isn’t such an easy one.  In fact, combining finances can lead to more arguments than keeping them separated, unless both parties are on the same page financially.  The way I see it, there are three ways you can handle finances as a couple.

Combined accounts. (What we do.)

We came to the conclusion early on in our marriage that combining finances made the most sense for us.  Neither of us made much more than the other, and we both brought about an equal amount of debt to the marriage.  We combined and pay all of our bills and other expenses from one account.  It makes it easier to balance, easier to pay, and avoids having to figure out how much each owes to what bill, or when/how to transfer money from one account to the bill pay account.

Combined account hybrid.

If you want the convenience of combined accounts, but still have a bit of an issue with purchasing things for each other.  Or, just want a “me” account where you can purchase whatever you want, whenever, no questions asked, a combined hybrid set up might make the most sense.  Combine all of your accounts, but open a new account in each of your names.  Those accounts get a set (budgeted) amount deposited into them each month.  Each account is completely hands off to the other partner.  Spend it however you like, as long as the cash is in the account to cover what you spend.

Completely separate.

You don’t like the idea of combined accounts at all.  They should be separate.  Each of you keeps your own account and you either agree on who is paying which bill, or you create a third account that each of you deposits your share of the bills into and pay all bills from that account.

Which is right for you? I can’t say which is right, or which is wrong for you.  It’s something that you need to sit down and discuss with your spouse/partner and decide on.  I think that combined finances are easier, but with automated deposits and bill pay, the separate accounts could be made pretty easy as well.  And, just because you settle on one way, doesn’t mean you can’t change it down the road.  What I will say is that people are sometimes quick to judge based on the decision that you make.  Are you too trusting by combining?  Not trusting enough by leaving things separate?  Perhaps your relationship is doomed if you don’t combine?

The truth of it is this: a majority of divorces have some root in money issues.  Forcing yourselves into a money model that you don’t like won’t help with that statistic.  Be open with each other about money.  Be willing to discuss your finances, both separately and combined, and get yourselves on a path to a solid financial future.  If you do that, it won’t matter which option you choose, it’ll be the right one.

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