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That Your Daddy’s Car?

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I want to share a story with you about work. About working for what you want, so that you can not only get what you want, but pay for it with cash.
My roommate in college (one of many) graduated college with no college loans. Not because he had scholarships, but because he paid for it with cash. Not only that, but he had a nice pickup and an even nicer classic car. It was a very nice drop-top convertible with a deep burgundy metal flake paint job. Every summer, he did a little bit of work on it until it was painstakingly nice.
68mustangblue_smallOne day, while we were out and about enjoying the sun with the top down, we happened to stop somewhere. It’s been a while ago, so I don’t exactly remember where. While we were there, some older guys (I’m guessing 40-50ish) came over to look at the car.
After asking the normal courtesy questions, like what kind of motor was in it and if the seats were original, one of the guys asked the wrong question.  “That your Daddy’s Car?”

My roommate isn’t exactly a shy person, but even he will admit that, at first, he was taken aback by the question. Despite our age (21ish), he had worked hard to put that car in the condition that it was in.  It was his car.  Not his daddy’s, his.  After he regained his senses, he made sure that the man who asked the question knew that it was his car. That he had done the work and he had paid for it.  The guy laughed his question off like it was a joke, although it was obvious that he hadn’t meant it jokingly.

Like most stories, this one has a moral at the end.  Or, at least, I’m giving it one.  Giving us all something to learn from it.  No matter how hard you work for something, there will always be that guy who will assume that you got it handed to you.  Nice car?  Must be your daddy’s.  Nice house?  Inheritance.  Or more loan that it’s worth.  Or you make a lot of money.  Or.  Or. Or.  The point is, they will find a way to assume that you got whatever it is by some other method than actual hard work.  And, like my roommate, you might feel that you need to set them straight.  Whether you do or not, is irrelevant.  What you need to take from this story is that when you set those goals, and you work hard to reach them, you must expect that there will be few people who will believe that you got it by working for it.  Some, you will be able to set straight.  Others will continue to think it no matter how many times you tell them.  Being disciplined and hard working requires a thicker skin.  You’ve got to be able to ignore the people who won’t believe.  They believe that anyone who has nice things got it the same way the majority of other people do.  Credit.  But you know better.  You got your things the Beating Broke Way!

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Just Do It. Whatever It Is.

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No matter where you go, the advice of those that already do to those that want to do is almost always, without fail, just do it.  Want to be a writer?  Forget the courses, workshops, and conferences.  Just write.  Want to be a photographer?  Just go out and take some pictures.  Want to be healthy and fit?  Yes, Nike said it best.  Just do it.

The mantra holds true for personal finance as well.  Want to retire rich?  You’ll need to save quite a bit up.  Don’t hem and haw about how much you can afford or when, just save it.  Don’t just learn how to retire by 40,  actually retire by 40! Want to become debt free?  Just pay it off.  Whatever it is in your personal finance life that needs work, you need to recognize that it’s not going to improve itself.  You’ll need to work on it.  And whatever it is, you need to also recognize that if you don’t just do it, you’ll never get it done.  Do your research, make a decision.  Once you’ve made a decision, follow up with it as quickly as possible and execute it even quicker.  100% of plans fail that don’t get acted upon.

Realized Benefits of Emergency Funds

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Here and on other PF blogs, you’ll hear us all talking about the need for a well stocked emergency fund.  And, unless you have one, you likely don’t know that we aren’t just saying that because we think we should.  They really do have the benefits that we claim they do.  These last couple of weeks, my wife and I realized those benefits.

Early on March 26th, my then pregnant wife told me that I should probably stay home from work as it was appearing very likely that we would be having a baby that day.  Less than two hours later, we were checking in to the hospital to do just that.  If you’ve been there, I don’t have to tell you that it was incredibly exciting.

The excitement waned as we waited for the labor to progress and then quickly disappeared altogether when the baby began having decelerations in it’s heart rate.  The doctor began making preparations and the birth was expedited.  Rather than wait for the labor to progress as it would normally, my wife was instructed to push with all she had to get that baby out.  Quickly afterwards, the baby (a girl!) was born, and just as quickly was taken to a warming table to be intubated and have her lungs and stomach suctioned and checked.

It turns out that sometime in the weeks leading up to her birth, she had *ahem* pooed in her amniotic sac.  To the medical world, it’s called Meconium.  And it’s pretty bad.  It affects the lungs in that it acts as a stopper for the little sacs that do the oxygen intake.  It also acts as an irritant to the lungs that can lead to infections.  It can be very serious, and can take days, or weeks, or months to completely clear out.

In our case, luckily or not, our little girl was able to kick it in a week.  Pretty average recovery time we’re told.  Now, she’s home and all is well.  There won’t be any lasting effects and we shouldn’t be able to tell the difference.

calculator stethoscopeHere’s where the benefits of an emergency fund come in.  For that week that our little girl was in the hospital, the last thing we wanted to think about was bills, work, or anything not related to the well-being of that precious baby.  We had friends watch our dogs, and my wife’s mother came up for a couple of days to watch our son.  And we spent as much time as we could watching our little girl fight the fight in an incubator.

We didn’t have time to balance our check book, or check our budget to make sure we were within bounds on something.  And now that it’s all over, I can honestly say that if we hadn’t had an emergency fund, it would have been much, much worse.

One of the touted benefits of an emergency fund is the peace of mind that it affords you.  When you know that you have that money to fall back on in an emergency, your mind is free to worry about the things that it should be.  In this case, it was our daughter.  Maybe it would be the car you just wrecked or the house that just burned down.  No matter what the emergency is, you know that you’ve got that extra cushion of money to help pay any bills or expenses that might come up.

I cannot tell you how wonderful it was to not have to worry about that during the week that she was in the hospital.  We certainly didn’t expect to have any problems, but we did.  You may not expect any problems, but they can happen.  If you’ve been putting off the funding of your own emergency fund, don’t wait any longer.  We’re glad we didn’t.  You never know when you’ll need it.

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