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How Your Confidence Affects Your Finances, Part Two

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For part one of this series, go here.

In our earlier post, we talked about how debt can seem insurmountable to some, as documented in the movie, Maxed Out. Unfortunately, some people feel their debt is so overwhelming that they take their own lives. That includes a college student who owed $12,000. While $12,000 is not a small sum, it’s not worth taking your life.

Debt and Your Self Worth

Our culture recognizes that many people identify their worth by their jobs. When we meet someone new and tell them what we do for a living, we say, “I am a teacher” or “I am an engineer.” We literally take on the identity of the job that we do.

What is not discussed is that we often measure our worth by our debt, also. If you’re in debt and struggling to make your monthly payments, it’s easy to feel worthless and hopeless. When my husband and I finally faced our nearly $57,000 in credit card and student loan debt, I felt embarrassed and stupid. After all, how did I let myself get in this position?

Your Thoughts Can Determine How Quickly You Can Get Out of Debt

Keep Calm Payoff Debt 2You may begin your debt pay off journey as I did–chiding myself and feeling like it was hopeless. How would I pay off this debt that was greater than our annual income? The whole process felt hopeless, and I wanted to give up before I even started.

But through our two year long journey thus far, I learned some things that make paying off debt easier.

  1. Be confident. When I stopped chiding myself and instead decided to encourage myself, the weight caused by debt was lifted. Instead of thinking, “I’m so stupid for being in this much debt,” I thought, “We’ve made mistakes financially, but now we’re on the right path. We’re making strides in our debt repayment plan, and eventually we’ll be out of debt.” This encouraging self-talk increased my confidence and reduced my anxiety. I felt empowered.
  2. Look at the little picture. Sometimes looking at the big picture–the total debt that you owe–can be overwhelming. Instead, focus on the smallest debt. If you put your extra money on the smallest debt, you’ll see progress more quickly. If you owe $60,000 but your smallest debt is $5,000, focus only on that one. Don’t look at your total debt load. You’ll feel elated as you watch your progress paying down the smallest debt.
  3. Celebrate small victories. Encourage yourself every step of the way. Praise yourself when you’re able to pay more off in a month than you typically can pay. Celebrate when you pay off one debt. Shout in your house that the debt is gone. Share it with your friends if they know of your debt struggle.

If you’re in debt, you can either hurt yourself mentally and physically by berating yourself and wallowing in self-pity. Or, you can heal yourself mentally and physically by praising and encouraging yourself through the long journey of paying down debt. Which would you rather do?

How do you encourage yourself when paying down debt?

This New Year, Take the Time to Look Back at What You’ve Accomplished

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The year is wrapping up, and we’re all hustling to finish our holiday shopping and prepare for the perfect Christmas season.  Then, just a few days later, we’ll be intent on improving ourselves and making ambitious goals for the next year.

I love taking the time to plan what I want to accomplish in the new year.  I spend a few weeks planning and writing down each goal.  I share my goals on my blog, and every month I update them with my progress, which helps keep me accountable.  With this process, I’ve been able to reach at least 75% of my goals every year.

If you, too, are a goal setter, you may focus only on the future, but that can be a mistake.

New Year Look BackInstead, before you start looking forward, take the time to look back at 2013 and all you have accomplished.

For instance, my husband and I are in the midst of paying down a mountain of debt (the balance was $57,966.01 spread across credit cards and student loans when we started paying it down at the end of 2011).  Every month money is tight, and honestly, sometimes I wonder if we’ll every be in a comfortable position financially.

My husband keeps reassuring me that we are in a better position financially this year, but I always assume that is what he says because he’s a free spirit and I’m the financial worry wart.  However, I took the time to look back, and I realized that he’s right.  We are in a much better place than a year ago.

At the beginning of January, 2013, my student loan balance was $4,218.94.  This month, I just paid it off.  That’s only one example.  In each area of our lives that I looked at financially speaking, we’re in a better place.  While I don’t necessarily feel the financial difference, the numbers on the paper don’t lie; we’ve made progress this year.

When you’re in the midst of a financial struggle, whether it be paying down debt, trying to build your savings, or trying to increase your income, feeling like you’re not making any progress is normal.  Getting ahead occurs so slowly that you often feel like your stagnating when you’re not.  Inch by inch, you’re making progress, but when you’re deep in the forest, it’s hard to see anything besides your immediate location.

You need to consciously look at where you were 12 months ago so you can appreciate where you are now.

But most of us never take the time to do so.  That’s too bad because by reflecting on the progress you’ve made, you can build your confidence and make accomplishing your goals in the future even more likely.

Plus, by looking back at what you’ve accomplished and the progress you’ve made, you can better set your goals for the next year.

A car has a rear view mirror because you have to see where you’ve been and what’s behind you to help you continue going forward.  The same is true with your financial life.

Have you taken the time to look at the financial progress you make every year?

Personal Finance is a Life Skill

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ChristianPF posted a very thought provoking article a while back.  In it, he talks about how spending money wisely is a life skill.  The choices that we make in spending our money are the root of how we live our lives and can bleed through into the businesses that we run or work for.  Basically, the way that you spend money is a very important.

I think I would take it one further.  Not only is the way that you spend your money a very important skill, but, as the title of this article states, the entirety of your personal finance management is a life skill.

Schools all around the world concern themselves with teaching children life skills.  Skills like writing.  Reading.  Wood Working.  Mathematics.  Science.  And even Cooking (0ne of my favorites).  Perhaps personal finance isn’t as important as things like mathematics, writing and reading (the three Rs), but I would argue that it’s just as important (or more so) than the rest. I would argue that personal finance is a life skill.

Improper management of your personal finances can lead to some pretty dire circumstances in your life.  You can find yourself falling into a trap of revolving debt and upside-down mortgages.  Too easily, you can find yourself making the choice between ramen and gas to go to work.  And yet, people continue to put personal finances aside as something that isn’t all that important.

Over the last decade, I’ve spent my time learning many of the tenets of personal finance management.  Even with the knowledge I had gained, it was a very difficult trip to take.  I started as close to the bottom as I cared to get.  I’m still a long ways from the top, but I’m getting there.  And most of that is owed to learning to manage personal finances properly.

Take the time today to learn something about taking care of your finances.  Teach it to your children.  Teach it to your friends.  If we all learn a little bit more each day, week, and month, we can turn our situations around and help more people.  The more people we help with this, the less likely that our economy will ever find itself in this situation again.