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How to Handle Someone Who Gives Too Many Gifts

September 28, 2020 By MelissaB 8 Comments

First world problems, right?  How can you complain about someone who gives too many gifts?

Believe it or not, that’s something I’ve struggled with during the holiday season.  I have one relative who, simply put, is buying too many gifts for me, my husband and my kids.

Handle Someone Who Gives Too Many Gifts

How to Handle Someone Who Gives Too Many Gifts

If this relative was independently wealthy, that would be one thing, but I know that she’s also trying to save money for some home repairs and a trip of a lifetime to Europe.  I wish she would buy each of us just one gift and put the rest of the money in her vacation fund.

Do you also have problems with someone in your life who buys too many presents?

If so, there are things you can do.  (Though you’ll probably want to implement most of these suggestions AFTER this holiday season.)

 

Set a Gift Giving Limit

Most people buy gifts because they want to be nice, and they want to do something special for you.  However, people can overstep their bounds.  This year between all of my relatives who like to give gifts to our kids, the kids are getting more than enough presents.  Combined with the gifts my husband and I were going to give, my kids were going to have way too many gifts.

I set aside some of the gifts I was going to give; I’ll use them next year.  I also had my mom set aside some of her gifts for birthdays.  I’ve also asked some of the relatives to set a limit of one or two gifts in future years so that our children are not drowning in presents.

Accept and Be Appreciative

Another idea is to simply accept the many gifts and be appreciative.  After all, as Trent Hamm, guest blogger on The Christian Science Monitor, points out, “These gifts are given out of love.”  Hamm, who struggles with his family members giving his kids too many gifts, explains, “People give our kids gifts because they love them so much and it’s their way of expressing it.  For me, telling them  not to do so is akin to saying, ‘Please don’t express your love and caring for our children.’”

Handle Someone Who Gives Too Many Gifts
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If someone like a grandparent routinely goes overboard with the gift giving, you can reduce the number of presents that you get your kids and save money.  You can just reap the benefits of saving money, or you can take the cash that you saved by not buying so many gifts and instead give the cash as a present to the prodigious gift giver.  Everything comes full circle this way.

Direct the Giver’s Generosity

I remember when I was little, my mom’s friend wanted to get me a Christmas present.  She got me Green Eggs and Ham since I was a prolific reader, but  I was well beyond that book.  Too often, people try to be generous by giving a present, but the gift they give is not necessarily what the recipient needs or wants.

You can direct the gift giver’s generosity by steering her to a wish list.  You could create it on Amazon, and then you would be able to keep track of what has been bought, and you could also have some say in the plethora of presents coming into your house.

Final Thoughts

Learning how to handle someone who gives too many gifts requires tact and patience.  While the situation may be frustrating now, the time will likely come when that person, especially if it is a grandparent, will be gone, and you’ll wish you had this problem.  Be grateful, and use one of the suggestions above to try to stem the tide of gifts, even if that person isn’t willing to change.

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Do you struggle with well-meaning relatives buying too many gifts?  If so, how do you handle the situation?

 

MelissaB
MelissaB

Melissa is a writer and virtual assistant. She earned her Master’s from Southern Illinois University, and her Bachelor’s in English from the University of Michigan. When she’s not working, you can find her homeschooling her kids, reading a good book, or cooking. She resides in New York, where she loves the natural beauty of the area.

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Comments

  1. Money Beagle says

    January 5, 2015 at 11:16 am

    We have two young kids and it does definitely tend to be where some can get carried away. We try to encourage things like cutting back on spending but then giving to their college fund, but in the end, their choice on how and what to give is theirs to make.

  2. Amos says

    January 15, 2015 at 4:52 pm

    Its advisable to let them know that you appreciate their gifts, but also know that you value their money and financial plans

  3. Julie@ChooseBetterLife says

    June 19, 2016 at 4:59 pm

    My mom used to do this–they were well-intentioned but things we didn’t want or need. It finally came full circle when she lived full-time in an RV for a decade and started begging US not to get her stuff that she didn’t have room for!

  4. Sarah says

    December 28, 2017 at 1:31 pm

    I have a friend who plies me with at least six gifts at Christmas. I have asked her to reduce the amount of gifts as I feel embarrassed at receiving so many gifts when there is no need for them. It has not changed anything. I am averse to the consumerism of the Christmas season, my friend is aware of this and yet she does what I feel is ‘rubbing my nose in it’. Nearly all of what she gives me is passed on to charities. The irony is that she likes to make people happy by giving but her giving only embarrasses me. I feel that she has no consideration for me in what she is doing. She is doing what satisfies her regardless of how it affects me. I think she is being selfish in her selflessness.

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