Beating Broke

Personal Finance from the Broke Perspective

All Is Not Lost

By 13 Comments

I can’t tell you the number of times that, in our seemingly never-ending struggle with debt, that I’ve seriously contemplated just giving up.  Just throwing in the towel and saying f-it.  You know it’s bad when you catch yourself fantasizing about it.  About how much easier your life would be without the struggle.  Just declaring bankruptcy, taking the hit on your credit score, and moving on with your life.

Even now, after having written about personal finance for over five years, I still find myself in that place occasionally.  We let our budgeting lapse, and inevitably our spending gets out of whack again.  Something happens, and the emergency fund just doesn’t seem to cover it all.  Or, worse, doesn’t seem to replenish itself as quickly as it should.

someecards.com - I can't believe I work this hard to be this poor.I can try and lay the blame somewhere.  That always helps, right?  If it isn’t my fault, then I can’t be blamed for it.  I can’t be the one that everyone points to as the failure.  I can deflect that attention to someone or something else.  That helps.  Until it doesn’t.

Every single time, it’s really me that deserves the blame.  It wasn’t the boss that refused to give me a raise.  It wasn’t the heater in the car that needed to be fixed.  And it certainly wasn’t the kids that needed to eat.  It was me.  Every.  Single. Time.

I failed to negotiate the raise.  I failed to have enough saved up to make that repair.  I failed to budget properly to make sure that we wouldn’t have to cut corners at the grocery store.  Me.  I did that.

I could just give up.  I could miss having to work harder to be paid appropriately.  I could miss having to pay attention to my budget to save money for car repairs, or to pay for groceries.  I could do that.  Giving up would be so easy.

Until it isn’t.

Are You a Financial Pessimist?

By 8 Comments

A few weeks ago, I shared that we’re all financial optimists, and it’s hurting our bottom line.  Like many, I’m guilty of thinking that my experience is common of most people.  Because I’m a financial optimist, I assume many people are, too.

How Financial Optimism Affects Our Finances

We’re digging our way out of some serious debt, and part of why we have that debt is because of financial optimism.

Four years ago, we took out student loan debt so my husband could finish his Ph.D.  We knew once he finished the long haul of finishing the degree and then completing a two to three year post-doc that finally he would begin to make a good salary.  That’s still true today, but we’re slowly trudging that long path.  Two more years until the post doc is over.

What we didn’t anticipate in our financial optimism is how long the road would be and how painful these years of low income and high student loan payments would be.

But I digress.

Financial Pessimism Isn’t Much Better

Clearly I shouldn’t have stated “we’re ALL” financial optimists because the comments on the post made me start thinking about the flip side–financial pessimism, which is nearly as bad as financial optimism.  Financial optimists make their decisions based on a bright future that may or may not come.  (That’s how we justified taking out $30,000 in student loans.)

Financial pessimists often make their decisions based on fear and assumptions of what might go wrong in the future.  Though this seems like a much better place to be than a financial optimist because the pessimist is protecting what they already have, it’s not really.  Pessimism can stagnate your growth.

[Tweet “Financial pessimists often make their decisions based on fear and assumptions…”]

My friend’s dad (I’ll call him Tom) inherited $100,000 when his uncle died.  (His uncle had never married and didn’t have children of his own.)   Tom had never seen that much money at once, and the idea of putting it in the stock market scared him.  He was afraid he would lose it.  Instead, he promptly put it all in a 10 year CD and earned a measly amount of interest.  Plus, that money was locked up for years!

His fear and pessimism cost him money.  Yes, he kept the money safe, but it was unavailable for 10 years, and he only made enough to cover the cost of inflation.  He didn’t let the money work for him and grow because he was driven by fear.

Financial pessimism can also cause you career stagnation.  Elizabeth has been at her job for 20 years now.  She finds the job exhausting; over the last few years, more and more people were cut from the staff, but those positions were never filled.  Elizabeth is now doing the work of several people; she often doesn’t get to go home early enough to see her young children before they go to bed.  She wants a change, but she’s afraid that she won’t find a job that pays as well or has such good benefits.  Her fear leaves her stuck in a position she doesn’t like, working too many hours, counting down to retirement that is another two decades away.

Financial optimism can hurt your bottom line by giving you confidence to spend money you assume you’ll make in the future.  Financial pessimism can hurt you because you’re often fueled by fear which can cause stagnation and limit your financial growth.

What do you think is the best strategy to remedy financial optimism or pessimism?

 

We’re All Financial Optimists, and It’s Hurting Our Bottom Line

By 12 Comments

Are you an optimist or a pessimist?

Do you see the glass half full or half empty?

No matter your answer, I have a secret for you.  We’re all financial optimists, and it’s hurting our bottom line.

Don’t believe me?

I didn’t expect you to.

You might say, my finances are a mess.  I have debt; I’ve pulled money out of my 401(k).  I’m definitely not a financial optimist.

But, I’d argue that you are.  When you look into the future, you don’t see bankruptcy and years of the same financial mess.  You likely think that eventually things will get better, and you make decisions based on that.

If your financial situation isn’t that bad, you’re probably even more of a financial optimist.  Say you’re getting ready to buy a house, and you know that your limit is a house that costs $250,000.

You find the perfect house.  The problem?  It costs $270,000.  Still, you decide to buy it, even though you know you can’t afford it.

What do you tell yourself?

  • It’s in a good neighborhood, and the house will appreciate.
  • In just a few years, inflation will make your now nearly unmanageable payment much smaller, and paying it won’t be such a hardship.
  • You’re just starting your career, and in a few years you’ll be making a lot more money, so the house payment will be easier to afford.

Sound familiar?

Just a few years ago, millions of people thought their houses would appreciate, and then they were caught up in the housing crisis.

Houses don’t always appreciate, but we optimistically think ours will.

[Tweet “Houses don’t always appreciate, but we optimistically think ours will.”]

Sure inflation will make your house payment more manageable, but you’ll have other expenses in a few years that you’re not thinking of because you’re thinking optimistically.  In a few years, maybe you’ll have a few kids to fill that house, and they’ll cost a lot of money.  You’ll be spending more on food, health care, transportation and day care, just to name a few things.  Suddenly, having a manageable house payment doesn’t really make a financial difference because you’ll have so many other expenses competing for your money.

If you’re lucky, your career will soar, and you’ll make more money, but that doesn’t always happen.  You might get laid off and have to find a job that pays less.  You or your spouse may decide to quit so one person can stay home with the kids.  Or, maybe you do get raises, but at the same time your health care premiums go up every year so your pay essentially stays stagnant.

Of course, thinking optimistically is beneficial to our mental health, but for our financial health, recognize that thinking optimistically hurts your bottom line.  When you get ready to make a large purchase like a house or a car, don’t forecast into the future.  Determine if you can afford the item now, in your current situation.  If you can, you’ll tie up less of your future money and benefit from this.  If you can’t, it’s best to pass it up.