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9 Ways to Get Your Child a Christmas Gift If You Can’t Afford to Buy One

November 9, 2020 By MelissaB 1 Comment

 

My mom often tells the story of the first Christmas she and my dad had after they were married. They didn’t have any money, so they bought a sad, little Christmas tree on Christmas Eve that only cost a few dollars. It was so tilted that they had to tie it to the wall to make it stand up straight. She got my dad a warm wool pair of socks to wear when hunting, and he got her a tea kettle.  She laughs about that Christmas now. In retrospect, the story does have a poignant sweetness to it. However, that Christmas, they didn’t yet have kids.  When you’re struggling financially, not being able to buy a Christmas gift for your child can be heartbreaking. If your money is stretched and you literally have nothing extra, there are ways to make sure your children have a gift under the tree.

Christmas Gifts

Ways to Get Younger Kids a Christmas Gift

Younger kids are easier to get gifts for when you’re in this situation.  They have less specific wish lists than teens.  Often they’re happy just having a gift, whether that be a doll or a truck.

Buy at Second Hand Shops or Thrift Stores

If you have a small bit of money to buy a gift, consider looking at thrift stores or secondhand shops. Or, you could turn in your kids’ outgrown toys and clothes for credit to purchase items at the secondhand store. Be warned, however, that secondhand stores usually pay just a pittance for items they buy, so you might not get much credit.

Exchange Used Toys with Another Family

Toy Exchange for Christmas Gifts
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Another idea that doesn’t cost anything is to exchange toys with family friends. You gather up the toys your children are bored with or have outgrown, and exchange them with another family who does the same. You can wrap these “new” toys and give them to your children for Christmas.

Ways to Get a Gift for Teens

Teenagers have more specific gift lists and are usually more aware that the family’s finances are tight.  Still with a little creativity, you can find ways to get them gifts they will like.

Give Them Books and Jewelry

You can go to local thrift stores and find books in excellent condition to give for presents.  You may also be able to find nicer jewelry for your teen daughters.

Give Them Gift Coupons

You may not have money now for a gift, but you might have money in a few months.  You can give your child coupons for experiences.  For example, a free one might be, baking and movie night with mom or dad.  While this gift costs nothing, it does give your teen one on one time with you.

Another idea might be one weekend family camping trip.  If you already have the camping supplies, you can go to a national park with a low entrance fee.  This present will likely cost less than $50 for the whole family, and you’ll be building memories.

Gift Them Privileges

One gift that is free but will likely delight teenagers is to gift them privileges.  For instance, if your teen still has chores to do around the house, give them a coupon for a week off from chores.  Or, one coupon could be for an hour or two later curfew.

Give the Gift of Your Time

If you don’t have money for presents, take the time as a family to count all of your blessings.  Then, spend some time helping others who are less fortunate than you are.  Volunteer at a food pantry or soup kitchen.

Sometimes when you find yourself in desperate financial straits, you may start to feel sorry for yourself.  Helping others can make you further appreciate your current situation, even though things feel dire.

Ways to Get a Gift for Kids of Any Age

Christmas gift
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There are other ways to get your children gifts, regardless of their ages.

Sign Up for a Free Gift with the Salvation Army

The Salvation Army works hard to give a gift to each child whose family can’t afford to buy one. Go to the Salvation Army website, enter your zip code at the locations tab, and find a Salvation Army near you.

You’ll need to prove that you are indeed low income. You can do this easily if you’re receiving food stamps, WIC, or Medicaid.  There are also other requirements you’ll need to submit, which you can find on the website or when talking to your local office.  Be advised that many people sign up for this service in October, so time is of the essence.

Sign Up on Santa’s Little Helpers

Reddit has a program called Santa’s Little Helpers.  You must join the program, and then you share your wish for holiday presents.  There are limits including $25 for an adult present and up to $100 for a child’s present.  You can make gift requests for each of your children, but if you have more than four children, you will need to provide a picture of your entire family together.

This year, registration began on November 7th, and gift requests will begin on November 14th.  You are allowed to register until December 12th, but obviously, the earlier you register and request a gift, the more likely your request is to be fulfilled.

Contact Your Local Church

Many churches run their own Christmas present giving operation. Contact local churches and tell them your situation. They may be able to help you or refer you to another church or agency that can.

Final Thoughts

If your budget is beyond stretched thin as my parents were on their very first Christmas, remember that there are nine ways to get your child a Christmas gift if you can’t afford to buy one. There are many services available to help assist families in a bad financial situation so that every child can open a present on Christmas.

What other suggestions do you have for families who cannot afford a Christmas gift for their kids this year?

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MelissaB
MelissaB

Melissa is a writer and virtual assistant. She earned her Master’s from Southern Illinois University, and her Bachelor’s in English from the University of Michigan. When she’s not working, you can find her homeschooling her kids, reading a good book, or cooking. She resides in Arizona where she dislikes the summer heat but loves the natural beauty of the area.

www.momsplans.com/

Filed Under: Children, Married Money Tagged With: Christmas Gift

How to Handle Financially Toxic Parents

September 14, 2020 By MelissaB 16 Comments

Your parents should provide for you as you grow up, but what happens when they ask you for money?  Should you give money to your parents?  The answer to how to handle financially toxic parents depends on both you and them.

How to Handle Financially Toxic Parents

Reasons Your Financially Toxic Parents May Need Money

There are many reasons your parents may ask you for money.  Some are valid reasons, and others, not so much.

A Job Loss

Sometimes the unexpected happens.  Your parent may find him or herself out of a job and in need of money.  Our neighbor, Rob, worked hard all his life.  Because he married young and he and his wife had children in quick succession, Rob never got to go to college.  He worked as a janitor.  While he and his wife were responsible with their money, they just didn’t have much money.  They couldn’t establish much of an emergency fund because his income just paid the bills and covered the expenses of his seven children.

When Rob was 59, he lost his job.  At that age, he had a difficult time finding a new job.  In this situation, helping your parents out, if you’re financially able, is the right thing to do.

An Unexpected Funeral

How to Handle Financially Toxic Parents
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If your parents no longer have life insurance and one dies, how does the other pay for the funeral?  Funerals can run upwards on $10,000 or more.  If your surviving parent doesn’t have the money to pay for the service and burial, contributing to this expense can be a nice gesture.

However, it is always better to plan for the future. If your parents don’t have a life insurance plan, talk to them directly. Remember, it’s never too late to have a policy. Burial insurance can be a savior by covering the funeral costs. Burial life insurance is nothing but a permanent whole life policy with small death benefits. Insurance experts also call it final expense insurance, funeral insurance, etc. You will be surprised to know that most of the big companies provide burial insurance for seniors. So, if your parents don’t have a policy yet, inspire them to have one and prepare for the unexpected.

For Younger Siblings

My friend, Joan, became friends with another girl, Leslie, in high school.  Leslie had an unstable home life and eventually moved in with Joan and her family.  When we all graduated high school, Leslie went to college for engineering and also worked full-time to support herself.

At regular intervals, Leslie’s mom, who still had four younger children at home, called Leslie and asked her for money.  For years, Leslie gave money to her mom because she felt guilty.  After all, her stepdad had just left, and her mom had to provide for the younger kids.

However, over time, her mother continued to spend irresponsibly, but Leslie didn’t feel like she could say no because if she did, her younger siblings would do without.  Leslie begrudgingly gave her mom money until all the kids were out of the house.

Bad Money Management Skills

How to Deal with Financially Toxic Parents
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Now, I’m on the flip side and am old enough to have friends who have adult children.  One of those “friends” (and I use the term loosely), Heather, continually writes on Facebook about her money troubles.  These posts always appear as thinly veiled requests for money.

In the most recent post, Heather wrote about the financial troubles she and her husband have and went on to say that their 20  year old son, who is working two jobs and taking a full load of college classes, is giving them money to pay for their utilities and gas to and from work.

However, in that same week, Heather posted about going out to eat two different times and having a manicure and pedicure as well as getting her hair highlighted.

Say what?!

Should You Give Your Parents Money?

As an adult, if you find yourself in the awkward position of deciding whether or not to give your financially toxic parents money, there are a few questions you should ask yourself:

Can you afford it?  Do you have the money to give your parents?  Can you loan them money without causing your own financial hardship?

Why do your parents need the money?  Are your parents in a truly tight financial spot because of unemployment, sickness or another issue?  Or, do they have a history of mismanaging money and now, like so many times before, they’re in a bind?

Are they trying to change their situation?  If your parents are facing financial difficulties, are they taking steps to try to improve their situation?  Are they wisely cutting expenses and learning how to manage their money so they won’t be in this position again?  You probably can’t give them advice here because they likely won’t listen, but you can recommend your favorite financial blogs or books to help them get a better handle on how to manage their money.

What does your spouse think?  If your parents are routinely asking for money, your spouse may be annoyed or angry.  After all, you’re giving away money that now can no longer be used for your own retirement fund, household needs, or for your kids.  If your spouse is tired of you giving your parents money, please listen.  The last thing you want to do is make your own marriage unstable to enable your financially toxic parents bad money habits.

Money arguments are the number one cause of divorce.  Giving money to your parents frequently can definitely lead to tension and disagreements in your own marriage.  Is enabling your parents worth it?

Should You Cut Your Parents Off?

If you do decide to lend your parents money, how often can you do so?  You should set boundaries for the limit of your generosity in the beginning.  Leslie, the girl I went to high school with, regularly gave her mother money for eight to ten years.  Then, as her younger siblings grew up and left home, Leslie saw that her mother often caused her own drama and financial woes.

She cut her mom off about 15 years ago, and now she rarely hears from her.

I don’t know how long Heather’s son will lend his parents money, but I hope it’s not for too long.  There’s no reason why a son should be financing his mother’s highlights and pedicures when he himself is working two jobs to pay his way through college.

Finally, if your parent is in dire financial straits due to addiction or gambling, you shouldn’t lend them money.  Using tough love here would be the best advice.

Have your parents ever asked to borrow money for you?  If so, how did you handle it?  

Are you a parent?  If so, have you ever asked to borrow money from your children?

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MelissaB
MelissaB

Melissa is a writer and virtual assistant. She earned her Master’s from Southern Illinois University, and her Bachelor’s in English from the University of Michigan. When she’s not working, you can find her homeschooling her kids, reading a good book, or cooking. She resides in Arizona where she dislikes the summer heat but loves the natural beauty of the area.

www.momsplans.com/

Filed Under: Children, Giving, Married Money, ShareMe Tagged With: family relationships, financially toxic, money lending, parents

When Should Your Child Get a Checking Account?

August 10, 2020 By MelissaB Leave a Comment

My oldest child has always had an interest in spending money and being independent, so I shouldn’t have been surprised when he wanted to open a checking account, but I was.  After all, I rarely use my own checking account.  I didn’t think a 13-year old would want one, but he was adamant he did.  It turns out, he was smart to want a checking account from such a young age, and I’m glad we let him open one.

When Should Your Child Open a Checking Account?

When Should Your Child Get a Checking Account?

There’s no hard and fast rule when your you child should get a checking account, but if the child is asking for one, it’s probably time.  That may happen when the child is 13 like my son was, or it may not happen until the child is 16 and working her first job.  (That’s when I got my checking account as a teen; I had no desire to have one before that.)  Your child will let you know when she is ready for one.  However, definitely by 16 or 17 she should open an account so she can practice managing her money before she moves away from home.

When Should Your Child Get a Checking Account?
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Have Safeguards in Place

Most banks require teens to have a parent co-sign on the account.  As a parent, you can also receive copies of the monthly statements so you can make sure your child is managing his money properly.

However, some banks have more parental controls than others, so you’ll want to pick the bank in part based on how responsible your teen is.  The bank our son chose had limited parental controls, but he didn’t really need them.  However, some banks allow parents to set limits on daily withdrawals and to receive text alerts when the child withdraws money.

Debit Card Experience Is Invaluable

Having a debit card attached to the checking account is invaluable.  Our child used actual checks sporadically, but he used his debit card all the time.  He knew down to the penny how much money he had in his account, and he would frequently ride his bike down to the bank to deposit more money before planning on shopping.

What Having a Checking Account Taught Our Child

Our son was diligent about writing down his expenses and managing his balance.  Still, one time early on he had an overdrawn account.  Sure, I was co-owner on the account, but when he had overdraft fees, I didn’t pay them; he did.

He was so annoyed with himself, and he has never made that mistake again in years of having a checking account.  I feel confident that when he’s on his own, he’ll be able to responsibly manage his checking account.

Final Thoughts

If you’re wondering when should your child get a checking account, the short answer is when she asks for one and is at least 13 years old.  However, she definitely should open one by the time she’s 16 or 17 so she can prepare to be financially responsible when she leaves home.

MelissaB
MelissaB

Melissa is a writer and virtual assistant. She earned her Master’s from Southern Illinois University, and her Bachelor’s in English from the University of Michigan. When she’s not working, you can find her homeschooling her kids, reading a good book, or cooking. She resides in Arizona where she dislikes the summer heat but loves the natural beauty of the area.

www.momsplans.com/

Filed Under: budget, Children, Married Money Tagged With: checking account, children, debit cards, Personal Finance

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