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My Wife Quit Her Job: One Year Later

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If you’d like to catch up on this on-going series, start here, then go here, and here.  Then come back here and read on.

There, now that you’re caught up, you know that my wife quit her job about a year ago.  Sometime around last August, she and two of her friends (and ex-coworkers) decided to start a business together.  And as of the last update, you knew that the business was going well.

Now, the business is still doing well.  Better than most of us expected, I think.  On May 1st, they began working with the clients that the certification that they picked up allowed them to.  Because of that, all three of them should be seeing full time hours fairly soon.  My wife has been working full time and then some for several months, but everyone else has been relegated to doing most of the office work (that is unpaid).  That’s good for us, but wasn’t all that great for everyone else, or for business partner morale.  Unfortunately, much of what my wife does is limited to people with certain qualifications.  Qualifications that only my wife has.  And, until the business is able to help pay for the others to get those qualifications, she’s got to do it.  With the new program that they just started, that should become more of a possibility towards the end of the year.  Of course, if the new program continues to do well, it might not be something that needs doing anyways.

As I expected, due to the added insurance costs, and some increases in withholding for ChildCare, my checks are much smaller than they were in 2009.  We had planned on that, and since a lot of the extra is pre-tax, it will help us in the long run.  It is a bit sad to see your net income be less than 50% of your gross income though.  To try and compensate, I’ve re-doubled my efforts here and at my other websites to try and make up some of the difference.  Income is increasing there, but it’s a very slow process, and it has yet to be enough to make any significant difference anywhere.

Due to my wife’s increased work load, we’ve been able to keep up with our bills and haven’t had any major issues.  It hasn’t been good enough for us to return to aggressive debt payments, but we haven’t added much new debt either.  That’s a win if you ask me.

The rest of the year looks pretty good.  My wife’s business looks like it will continue to grow and, with any luck, so will my side endeavors.  I’m hoping that we might even be able to start our debt snowball rolling again.

You Are Your Own Worst Enemy

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When it comes down to setting your budget, saving your money, spending your money, and acting responsibly with money overall, you are your own worst enemy.  You and only you are responsible for keeping your self-made goals.  There are tools that you can use to help yourself, but the only enemy that you need to worry about is yourself.

Your spouse is not responsible.  Let’s assume for a minute that you don’t have a spouse that is running around buying up all the $700 pairs of shoes in town.  Stop blaming your spouse.  He/She is not responsible for the debt that your in, your blown budget, and your lack of an emergency fund.  Your spouse, however, is an excellent tool to use to overcome all of those problems.  Get on the same team as your spouse.  Your spouse can keep you accountable better than anyone else.  Discussing the finances with your spouse is a good thing.  Get them on your side.

The Credit Card companies are not responsible for your debt and the lack of paying it off.  They may hold the note on that debt and encourage you to use your “credit”, but ultimately, it is you that uses it.  And it’s you that chooses to sign the receipt.  And it’s you who chooses to continue to carry that plastic in your wallet. If  you can’t use credit cards responsibly as a tool, get rid of them.  No Excuses.  Everytime you sign the slip, you accept responsibility for the damage you’re doing.

You have taken responsibility for so many of the things in your life from feeding yourself (I assume) to cleaning yourself (assuming again) and even to dressing yourself (yep, assuming.).  Why, then, do you blame everyone else for your financial woes?  Would you blame them if you fed yourself cardboard?  If you tried to bathe with sewer water?  Or if you forgot to put your shoes on and walked on sharp stones?  No, you wouldn’t.  Stop trying to pass the blame for your monetary faults to someone/something else.  Your actions are directly responsible for where you are.  The moment you take responsibility for those actions and their results is the moment you are free of their bindings.  It’s the moment you can begin to feel free of them and can begin to correct them.  And once they are corrected and you have broken those old habits, you will be free to develop new habits that will set you free from that old life.

Take responsibility.  Change yourself for the better.

Ethics and Morality in Personal Finance

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Personal finance isn’t all just about the best ways to save money and live frugally.  There are other things to consider; other rules that should be followed.  Some have absolutely nothing to do with saving money.Many of the posts here at Beating Broke deal with saving money, budgeting, and living frugally.  On many occasions I have drummed on the amount of debt that we all take on and the ways that we can go about budgeting to make that debt go away.  Deep in the root of that is a moral standard.  I believe we have a moral responsibility to not spend more than we earn.  And, because each dollar of debt, holds some risk of default, I believe we also have an ethical responsibility to budget so that we don’t default on our debt.

In the process of paying off our debt and saving money, many of us will be faced with a moral or ethical dilemma.  Perhaps you bought a bunch of things at a department store and the teller didn’t notice that one of the items rang up for less than it was supposed to be.  Or maybe the teller only rang up one item when there were really two.  Many of us have been faced with just such a situation.  And many of us, in our struggle to reduce our spending and debt, probably didn’t say a thing.  I know I have.  And I felt guilty about it.  Morally, and ethically, we have a responsibility to pay the correct price for an item, and to pay for the correct amount of items.  Even though I admit to not doing anything, I do try to keep myself honest.  Ill gotten gains are gains you’re likely to lose.  Call it karma, or whatever you like, you’ll feel the reverberations of your acts.

Perhaps more-so than in paying off debt and saving money, ethical and moral dilemmas can arise after we’ve paid it all off.  Suddenly, we find ourselves with an abundance of spendable money that we can save or do what we want with.  It’s not earmarked for any debt, and we’ve already paid ourselves.  The situation has changed, but we still have a moral and ethical obligation to do what is right.  If you’re investing your money, do you invest in so-called “sin stocks”?  The stocks of cigarette and alcohol and other indiscretions.  Again, I know I have.  I am still a shareholder in the parent companies of both Marlboro and Camel.  I’ve owned others in the past.  Depending on how you feel about those companies, a ethical dilemma could come up.  As a generality, those companies have rather solid stock and usually pay dividends.  If you feel that those companies are responsible for cancer and death, can you ethically allow yourself to support them by becoming a share owner of that company?

As debtors, we all despise the credit card companies who charge double digit interest rates and hide fees around every corner.  Banks too.  As someone who can now invest money rather than paying those credit card companies and banks, deciding how we feel about those rates and fees can be another dilemma.  If you’re one of the lucky ones  whose state has allowed access to the peer-to-peer lending companies, you have the ability to invest in loans that carry rates that are very much the same as what a credit card company or bank would charge.  The table has turned.  If you were against it when you were paying the rates and fees, can you ethically charge them?  Morally, should you?

I think that many of us look too closely at the technical aspects of personal finance.  We study amortizations schedules and debt snowballs.  We talk endlessly about our retirement funds and the ways that we are going to build them up.  And, while it is there as an undercurrent, we sometimes fail to see the moral and ethical currents that run in the background.  And sometimes, we allow our technical expertise and know-how overcome our moral and ethical compasses in order to make our debt snowball roll a bit faster.

If you truly want to win at personal finance, you have to find your moral and ethical limits and remain steadfast in their direction.  We all fail to do that occasionally, but, as the old saying goes, you’ve got to get back up and try again.